Probably for the same reason we stay in dead end jobs. Partly because we are lazy, and partly because it is comfortable. I speak from experience. I mean how many times does a man need to screw up before I am like okay – you need to go? Apparently quite a bit.
I have been trying to figure that question out for some time now. Being alone – it takes work. I mean sleeping alone in itself can be scary. Not to mention the feeling of abandonment when your used to your phone being blown up day in and day out.
We stay hopeful too. Like oh, he made a mistake, but he is going to change. And then as women we feel like we are raising this boy into a man – so we feel accomplished. What I have realized though – is when you have to be the boy’s momma – he will always make mistakes – and you will always be left cleaning up the mess.
How many times have you been disrespected in any capacity – and yet stayed – and have you ever asked yourself why?
I have come to know my reasons, and I will be candid.
First off – I like comfortable. From everything in life to my jammies to my relationship. I want a man to fit my lifestyle like a glove, don’t complicate shit for me – it will irritate me.
Secondly I never felt like I deserved more than what was in front of me. OMG I know, but hey self-realization is hard – but when you become honest with yourself – your life starts to come together.
Third – I am lazy – I would rather comfortable and knowing that the person in front of me is an ass hole over the next one that I don’t know – and I don’t know what they bring to the table – cause God knows the other switch outs didn’t play too good in my favor in the past.
Fourth – loneliness used to scare the shit out of me. Now I rather enjoy it – and often find that now it takes more work to be social than to be alone. This one is the hardest. Often times, we as women, we don’t give ourselves enough credit. I guess maybe from the teachings of Adam and Eve, we as women feel like we need a man to thrive, to survive, but I am here to tell you – I have been alone for the past 2 years – and it has been the hardest, most rewarding 2 years of my life. Learning to be alone – you realize how to love yourself.
Now the benefit to the 4th, is that when you are left alone, on your own, you learn your true strengths, and with that – the other 3 get cancelled out.
Being alone isn’t for the weak – cause God knows there would be times to where I didn’t feel like I could go on any longer alone, but you stay with your grind, and you figure shit out. The fear that I have now is that I am so happy in my own little world that I won’t let a man be a part of it hahahaha – they have a tendency to ruin things for me. Hahaha.
Relationships take work – but I have to tell all you beautiful bitches a secret.
People only treat you how you allow them to treat you.
Yea you heard me. PEOPLE ONLY TREAT YOU HOW YOU ALLOW THEM TO.
Repeat it again PEOPLE ONLY TREAT YOU HOW YOU ALLOW THEM TO
Speak up for yourself . USE YOUR WORDS. Express your feelings, we need to work on our own communication skills before we can expect our spouses to do the same.
We have become a society in which we are in constant need of fixing other people’s life – we don’t realize our own life needs some fixing.
Start with YOU, cause I promise in your quest to repair yourself – people filter themselves out naturally!!!!!!
Have a fabulous day my friends.