Love like what the hell does it even mean?
We understand it when it comes to the people we are born into. Our mother’s, father’s, children. That type of love – although challenging sometimes – you typically do not have to question that love.
But what about a mate in life? Do we really ever find the “one”?
I really don’t know the answer to that question, but what I do know – is that maybe we need to stop seeking the one and become the “one”.
I will have to elaborate on that cause at this point, you are probably looking at yourself and thinking – dam girl – I am the “one”. But are you? How honest are you in your current relationship? Do you expect honesty yet not give it? Do you continue to seek a “better” lover because you “deserve” one? Let’s be real people! Are you candid with your loved ones? Do you express your feelings? Do you even know who YOU are? I mean really DO YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE?
Having a relationship will not validate you as a person. Self discovery is hard, but one of the most rewarding and satisfying things you could ever accomplish. Most of my life was spent dedicated to the needs of others – and now I am discovering my own needs, my own desires.
My insecurities are always heightened in a relationship. But do you know why? Because I was always the chameleon in the relationship. Bending and turning to accommodate the needs of the men I wanted to be with. Like look at me – I am perfect for you. But that is fake. Things that we do to “impress” a mate are really just a deceptive way for us chameleons to get the mate they want – then wonder why we aren’t happy. Well dumb ass we aren’t happy because we are doing what THEY want and not what I want.
And y’all know what I am talking about too. In the dating scene we all have a tendency to pretend to be something we are not to impress the date, and even modifier our normal behaviors because it is a date.
I, as well, am guilty of this, but no more. Moving forward any dates will be conducted with 100% raw and unedited me, because that is who I am – the true me – and that is the one I want the next one to fall in love with. Not the edited, and cleaned version.
I found true love.
True, unconditional love.
Within myself. 
I Smell Cakes and Candy 
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Thank you for following me. I find you amazing. We have similar likes with rap music and poetry. Maybe we can collaborate on a song
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I would love that. Are you on Bandlab?
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I am a social media dinosaur. Learning x
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Do you have IG?
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Do you sing and rap?
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A little of both. I’m super new but have been writing since I was 13.
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Yes. What’s your IG I can add you x
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Jessica.ismellcakesandcandy
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Super excited already x
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Me too 😂😂😂
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I will join.
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Do we ever find “the one?” I don’t know. I never have. What I know is that the most successful relationships I know of are those that support each other, trust each other, laugh together, cry together, work and/or play together. That kind of relationship doesn’t just happen. One never meets “the one” in an instant. One starts with physical attraction, when some of the other characteristics appear, they work on making them better and more often. In time, that person becomes “the one” because of effort on both sides.
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I absolutely love how you stated that! That is exactly the type of relationship I seek. We both work hard at being the best for one another 🙂
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I’m lucky enough to have found “the one”, she’s now my wife and we are blissfully happy. Life rarely happens in the order we wish it, perhaps we think life has passed us by? So when we stumble upon love, don’t question, it don’t deny it, just embrace it. 🙂
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I believe we find the one we are meant to be with when we are ready and accepting of such. I needed to grow, to develop, to learn about myself. I think that is what prevented it thus far, but I do have faith it will happen 😃
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