I have started to realize that dating doesn’t even appeal to me anymore. Don’t get me wrong, I go through these periods of loneliness to which I venture out – but always find myself coming home, grabbing something I am not supposed to eat, and just looking at Marley and saying “Marley, what the bloody hell what that?” Often laughing cause it is just that ridiculous.
And this is after my fine tuned filtering beforehand too. And honestly those dates, which have been quite some time ago, ruined it for me in regards to dating, right now at least. At least until I am at that peak lonely, which hasn’t come again yet – so hopefully that crazy shit is gone. Hahahaha.
Seriously though, like YALL WTF????
PLEASE SOMEONE PLEASE EXPLAIN TO ME WTFFFFF
And for those out there dating, and probably on both sides of the spectrums (women and men) y’all know what I am talking about.
It is a feeding frenzy out there – but with all piranhas. Men, they are thirsty, but the problem is, they already have a fountain. Or they are in stuck mode.
Stuck, yea, I said it. This is reality hour. This is my reality, and I am not saying it is all men. So if anyone decides to get offended, THIS IS MY REALITY. Yours might be different – GOD PLEASE TELL ME IT IS – It will give me some hope that there is something more out there.
And y’all know what I mean too. Men stuck on life in some capacity. Stuck on themselves. Stuck on their exes. Stuck on trying to have a whole case of Good and Plenty, VARIETY PACK. Stuck in their own heads. No ambition. No drive. No goals.
I can’t stand when I am asking a man on a date – what kind of things do they plan on doing with their future, and they try to use that to lead into a flirtation thing. Okay – it is cute – the first time I ask – but the second time a women asks this question – they wanna know if you have dreams, goals.
And now there is the whole stigma of asking a man if he has a job.
Listen, and please hear me out. I am understanding. I get, we all fall on hard times. Like we all know I am a broke bitch, but I ain’t looking to see if you have money – I am looking to see if you have stability, was this a layoff, like how many jobs have you had? Yea this is just like a job interview cause this is my life.
And I would like to be candid for a moment. And this is for both, men AND WOMEN. If you are not providing for yourself, why in the bloody Mary are you looking for a relationship? And furthermore, if you aren’t working – then who is currently paying your way through life? And if you say yourself, then I wanna see that I-9 cause I wanna know if you filing cause I am not into all that shady shit. NOT TODAY SATAN
Yea, you can say it – “this is why you single” girl – hell yes it is.
I have already fixed enough men, and you know how that left me? Fkd up – so nah, I GOT MY SHIT TOGETHER. Yes I am broke, but I make poor look pretty. The man can be poor too but he got to be working, putting in them hours, cause around here, we don’t do lazy. He needs to be creative, expressive, honest, and loyal and understand the TRUE definition of each – cause some of y’all got all that shit fkd up too.
I need a man who is honest and loyal to himself, a deep honest and loyal. I don’t want to hear this I’m loyal to this/ that person. How about be loyal and honest to yourself, that way it is easier to be loyal and honest to those around you. Now let me elaborate on that because I know some of y’all like what??? We have a tendency to be LOYAL to the person that is in front of us at any given time, as soon as that person is out of sight, where does your loyalty lie? And I mean honestly – no fake shit talk either. We need to stop bending and breaking to appease the loyalty of those around us. You need to be loyal and honest to yourself. Start at the core. Start living your truths. I need someone who recognizes their own faults, and is working on them – cause God knows we all have them.
Like I have been through enough shitty relationships to where now, unless you bring me bliss, 95% of the time, then I already know you are going to waste my time that would be inclusive to bringing me confusion, aggravation, or litigation, and no one needs any of that shit hahahahaha.
Hating Dating Though 🙂
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